Divorce is never easy, but preparing for mediation can make the process smoother, less stressful, and more productive. Whether you’re beginning divorce mediation or just exploring your options, having a clear checklist helps you feel organized and confident.
At Charleston Divorce Mediators, LLC, couples are guided through every step of mediation. Here’s a practical checklist to help you get ready.
Step 1: Gather Important Documents
Having the right paperwork makes mediation more efficient. Before your first session, collect copies of:
- Financial records: Bank statements, retirement accounts, credit card balances, tax returns.
- Property documents: Mortgage statements, home deeds, car titles, or lease agreements.
- Debts: Student loans, medical bills, or other outstanding balances.
- Insurance information: Health, auto, and life insurance policies.
- Income documentation: Pay stubs, business income records, or unemployment benefits.
These documents give both parties a clear picture of assets and liabilities, which is essential for fair decision-making.
Step 2: Consider Parenting and Custody Plans
If you have children, think through what custody and visitation might look like:
- Weekday and weekend schedules.
- Holidays, school breaks, and vacations.
- Decision-making responsibilities for education, health, and activities.
- Plans for communication and co-parenting.
Writing down your ideas ahead of time helps you come prepared to discuss parenting arrangements respectfully and productively.
Step 3: Identify Your Priorities
Mediation works best when you know what matters most to you. Ask yourself:
- What issues are most important (e.g., keeping the family home, stability for children, retirement accounts)?
- Where are you willing to compromise?
- What outcomes would feel fair to both sides?
By identifying priorities in advance, you’ll be better prepared to negotiate solutions.
Step 4: Prepare Emotionally
Divorce can bring up strong emotions. To get the most from mediation:
- Remind yourself that mediation is about problem-solving, not winning.
- Commit to respectful communication.
- Consider journaling or speaking with a therapist to process feelings beforehand.
A calm, focused mindset helps keep discussions productive.
Step 5: Understand South Carolina Divorce Mediation
Mediation is:
- Confidential: What’s discussed stays private.
- Voluntary: Both parties must agree to participate.
- Neutral: The mediator does not take sides or give legal advice.
- Flexible: Couples create their own agreements instead of leaving decisions to a judge.
Knowing what to expect helps reduce stress and uncertainty.
Step 6: Consult with an Attorney if Needed
While mediators do not provide legal advice, you may want to speak with an attorney before or during mediation to understand your rights under South Carolina law. Many couples choose to use both—a mediator to facilitate agreements and an attorney to review them.
Preparing with a clear divorce mediation checklist can save time, reduce stress, and help you get the most out of the process. By gathering documents, clarifying your priorities, and approaching discussions with an open mind, you set yourself up for a smoother transition.
✨ At Charleston Divorce Mediators, LLC, I help couples navigate divorce with respect, efficiency, and fairness. Contact me today to schedule your consultation and take the first step toward a healthier resolution.
About Catherine Marra
Catherine Marra is a Mediator with over 30 years of experience in Family Law, including 20 years in private practice and 10 years as a Family Court Magistrate. She uses her knowledge and experience to guide couples in negotiating divorce settlements so they can save money, complete the divorce process quicker, and get better outcomes than they would at trial.